Go ahead say "can't"





One of the things my father said over and over as we grew up was "there is no such word as Can't." Whatever you thought you couldn't , was simply your own shortcoming. My father wanted us to be positive thinkers. It was a gift, his gift, his way of parenting. Yesterday my sister and I walked through the Botanic Gardens with him for Fathers Day morning. We all love gardening and have a bit of a healthy competition amongst ourselves. So, I give you some roses from the Chicago Botanic Gardens.

I give myself permission to say I can't, now adays. I think it is healthier actually.

I can't grow roses....they get black spots and aphids and worse, they die over hard winters. So I go to the Botanic gardens and enjoy their roses.

I can't reverse a stitch pattern in my head that reads, "at the same time". I can't . It is fine that I can't. There are many things to knit that don't involve a v-neck. Someday, someone will right the pattern out in a way that makes sense to my knit brain, and then maybe I will knit something with a v-neck.

I can't bake a good batch of cookies when I try. So, I know the best little cookie bakeries around. I never turn a homemade cookie down. I can make rice krispie treats that are never long for the pan, however.

I can't do a kitchener without whining, so I knit round toes or do a three kneedle bnd off.

Can'ts are okay. I read a great little article about how it is actually healthier to give up in some situations than try to keep going. I'm going to give up a little more today. I'll let you know how it goes.....


I'll talk to you in the comments. :)

Comments

Unknown said…
Yummm.... now I'm thinking about rice krispie treats!

I can't cook a steak. I accept my shortcomings!
Anonymous said…
Hmm- I can't deal with any hard math-- I guess that is my "can't!"

And the trick to V-neck sweater knitting is to make a few, totally screw up, and learn by doing. But I have to say, I used to really hate them until it finally "clicked." There are also patterns that are much better then others....
Karen said…
I agree, can'ts are just fine. As long as we don't focus on them too much - and remember all our cans.

I can't do a cartwheel - never could.

I can't sing (well, I can't sing on key!!)

I still can't crochet - maybe some day.

I can't stop missing my hubby when he's at work. :)
kathy b said…
Oh Missing your hubby is a good thing. ;)
Beverly said…
Shortcomings, limitations kinda one in the same. I can bake almost everything, but I can't bake biscuit. I can't ride a bike without looking like a dork. I can't shoot a basketball, but my 4 other siblings can play the hell out of hoops.
Jennifer said…
Hmmmm - very interesting concept. I like the way you think!
Cookey_knits said…
I can't do alot of things but I do like to focus on the things that I can do, it just makes me feel better.
Grace said…
I had the same luck with roses, even though i adore them, i found this week past they thrive in the sandy soil of the shore----now if I had a yard i'd try again!
I don't let myself say can't either. I keep trying until I figure out whatever I'm trying to do. Sometimes it becomes a skill that I am proud to have and other times it becomes something that I have done once, but will never do again.

And those are beautiful pictures, btw.
Anonymous said…
Does the three-needle bind-off work? It doesn't make an uncomfortable ridge in your shoe?
Anonymous said…
Not here to tell you how to DO any of them--I have a black thumb--I just have learned to say "can't" too, and it's not half as bad as some people said!
kathy b said…
Emily,

THe three needle bind off doesn't seem to bother me at all when I wear my socks. I haven't noticed.

Grace,

What a good tip Grace. Our soil is not not not sandy. That is probably the downfall of my roses. THANKS! it isn't me, it is the soil! :)
Anonymous said…
I can't do kichener period! No whining necessary. So I gave up long ago and don't even try. I am, however, a master at mattress stitch. Can'ts are okay if you follow them with cans!
The Yarn Nut said…
I think it's ok that you can't. I can't grow roses although I plant 5-6 a year with the hopes one day it will turn into the most wonderful can. I will not give up! I look at my neighbors roses every year that are simply a sight to behold and dream.
Anonymous said…
It's not that I can't, it's just that I won't. If I want to do anything I can keep trying. And I can do anything just not very well every time. I don't enjoy sewing or knitting because presently they are too tedious for me. I love to garden but often can't get things to grow in one place or another but I "won't and can't" stop trying (I'm a gardening addict)! So I can keep trying and do and have found out a lot about gardening around my house. Someday when I have more patience with myself I'll try sewing and knitting. A time for everything, doncha know. Neat pix. Kathy W.
NatRed2 said…
There is no shame in something we can't do. We can't all be perfect! ;)

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